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3 essentials to stay in love

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How many people wish the initial rush to “fall in love” could last? While some may dismiss these feelings as infatuation or the way human evolution prompts people to procreate and continue existence, others suggest that the early stages of love might be the truest expression of love. love. For example, Bruce Lipton, author of The biology of belief and The honeymoon effect, argues that the initial feelings of falling in love tear people away from their autopilot-driven self-obsessive thoughts and behaviors and plunge them into the beautiful, magical moment.

A person who is newly in love considers the other to be perfect and all of their peculiarities as precious and adorable. Empathy, compassion, communication and understanding are at an all time high. In addition, love is transferred to other areas of life, so that the world looks brighter; the sunsets are brighter and the wind looks like magical pixie dust connecting every living organism. While the modern world tends to dismiss love on the first try as comparable to an untrustworthy drug-induced high, Lipton says new love can be the truest love because it serves as a awakening to the authentic experience of the world – and fall outside love means that a person falls back into their unconscious conditioned habits which are largely filled with negative perceptions. So the once charming loved one becomes boring, and the dancing butterfly that once seemed to perform a ballet in sync with a divinely orchestrated symphony of nature sounds now appears as a pesky parasite, if seen at all.

Interestingly, researchers have found that the most positive feeling that reduces inflammatory and pathogenic chemicals in the body is the state of admiration. Feelings of fear seem to be a component of first love. People in love and amazed can feel gratitude on steroids, but drug-free. In fact, drugs and mind-altering chemicals like alcohol actually prevent you from feeling fearful. The same goes for distractions like the Internet and cell phones. Perhaps this is why the new love is so liberating: it saves the person from a self-imprisoned worldly existence that is not fully conscious. Love brings a person back to life, like breathing into the lungs after saving a person from drowning.

How to maintain love?

1. Try to continue to see the person with new eyes. Be careful when projecting your feelings onto a partner, as if you are criticizing them when in reality it is your own self-criticism that is beating you and beating them now. Seeing the person with new eyes can help you listen better and understand that everything about that person is special.

2. To be in love is to practice intimacy. Intimacy has been described as “into-me-see” and is sacred between people. When people are mutually intimate, research shows they have a better quality of life, longer and healthier lives, increased immune function, improved memory, increased creativity, and a greater experience of fear states. . Intimacy means fully listening to someone’s heart and deepest feelings, and sharing your heart and deepest feelings. Intimacy means trying to listen and understand when someone is hurt, and working through conflicts with each other in a way that honor and respect the relationship. Intimacy means hanging on and building mutual trust, security, and heart-to-heart resonance. Intimacy means having a sense of self and a decrease in defensiveness. Intimacy does not seek to harm, punish, blame, attack, condemn or criticize. It is not abusive; it’s therapeutic.

3. To be in love is to keep the adventure alive. Working together to give and to uplift others is an important form of being in love. Many couples have children and grandchildren and tend to see the fruits of their love as something greater than themselves. Being in love means a loss of selfishness, pride and ego. He seeks to make the world a little better and brighter for others. Being in love is humble and, temporally, exists right here now. Being in love is a state of mind that can include a specific loved one or become a state of life that you can embrace at any time.